There is a growing market for books about manhood and the family.
A couple of years back, Pastor Chris Wiley contributed to that market with his
book, Man of the House: a “how to”
book for young men on how to build a household. While not overtly religious, it
is based in a Judeo-Christian, natural law ethic. It serves as a guide for
young men who want to know how to build a household.
His new book, TheHousehold and the War for the Cosmos, serves as a prequel to Man of the House. It clearly presents
the foundation for a Christian household. The subtitle is “recovering a
Christian vision for the family” but this not your typical, Evangelical (read
mushy) book on how to be a better dad. It is a book about what leadership in a
Christian household looks like. And it begins with piety.
The piety he describes is not the piety of abstaining from cards
and alcohol, but a virtue that is much more profound. He describes its meaning
in Roman times when the Apostle Paul wrote about it, and how the meaning of the
word was emasculated in modern times. When we hear the word “piety” we should
think more about sacrifice, patriotism, and responsibility than quiet walks on
a Sunday afternoon. Piety is a masculine virtue.
He showcases this piety through comparing and contrasting the
patriarch Abraham with Aeneas, the founder of Rome. Without giving away the
history, there is much more in common with those two men than I ever thought,
and they both go a long way in teaching us how piety is displayed. This was an
especially good chapter.
In the last half of the book, Pastor Wiley applies this
stronger piety to us, explaining how Scripture calls for fathers to teach their
families to be pious, pointing again to Abraham as an example. My favorite
chapter was when he walks the reader through Paul’s letter to the Ephesians,
documenting how piety is developed from chapter 1 through chapter 6. The
pinnacle was when he connected the household codes of Ephesians (5:22-6:9) to
spiritual warfare (6:10-21). I’ve never read a commentator who could
convincingly explain Paul’s logic in writing about households to writing about
warfare, but the author’s explanation is more than convincing. To summarize:
the household was (and still is) an instrument of warfare. In ancient times it
was literal warfare; today godly households are to be instruments of spiritual
warfare. Hence the application: get married and begin your battle plans.
This book accomplishes what is purports to do: present a
vision for the Christian family. It doesn’t present the detailed plans of Man of the House, but it lays the
necessary foundation. I would have enjoyed a longer treatment of some of the
ideas, but I’m sure he will present those in time.
Sometimes books on the family leave you feeling discouraged;
either you can’t possibly put into practice what they suggest, or they tell
dads to become more feminine and less masculine. This book does neither. It
points out a real problem and shows how we can begin the repair process. I
received a review copy of this book from the publisher, and am thankful; it
will benefit me for many years.
